1、 Social phenomenon: Avoidance of commitment has become the norm in marriage and love

1.1 Fuzzy Relationships Replace Definitive Love

A large number of young people remain in the ambiguous and de facto partner stage for a long time, resisting long-term commitment relationships such as confession, cohabitation, and marriage, and preferring unconstrained shallow relationships. "Natural elimination" style breakups are not uncommon.

1.2 Longing for intimacy but fearing binding

A survey shows that over 80% of young people expect stable relationships, but more than half of the respondents admit to being afraid of the constraints and risks brought by commitments, and would rather live alone than bear family responsibilities.

2、 Economic Bottom: Future Uncertainty Leads to Risk Avoidance

2.1 Unstable income and inability to bear household costs

After the collapse of the foam economy, informal employment became popular, young people were poorly paid, and there was huge pressure on them to spend on housing, weddings, and childcare. They believed that they were still unable to stand on their own feet and provide long-term security to others.

2.2 Marriage is seen as a high cost risk project

Mortgage loans, elderly care, and children's education form long-term economic shackles, and once they enter marriage, they have to bear lifelong burdens. Risk averse thinking makes young people actively postpone or refuse to make lifelong commitments.

3、 Cultural Psychology: Education and Social Shaping Avoidance Personality

3.1 Tolerance Culture Fear of Conflict and Responsibility

The Japanese culture of "reading the air" emphasizes not causing trouble, オナホール and promises imply long-term conflicts and sacrificing freedom; Young people are accustomed to avoiding deep conflicts and unwilling to bear the psychological guilt caused by relationship breakdowns.

3.2 The spread of interpersonal relationship reset syndrome

The habit of cutting off contact rather than repairing communication when encountering conflicts, fearing the loss of a way out after making commitments, tends to retain the freedom to withdraw at any time, and resists binding long-term contractual relationships.

4、 Rise of Individual Consciousness: Freedom Prioritizes Family

4.1 Enhancing the attractiveness of independent living

Living alone allows for free disposal of income, time, and hobbies. Marriage is considered to sacrifice personal growth and quality of life, and young people are unwilling to give up their own pace for their partners.

4.2 Weakening of Women's Economic Independence and Marriage Needs

Women's career development is well-developed, and they do not need to rely on marriage to obtain survival security. They are unwilling to compromise on traditional family division of labor, and their demand for equal commitments is raised, further prolonging the waiting period.

5、 Reflection: Commitment is not a shackle, but a two-way safety net

5.1 Distinguish between blind bundling and two-way collaboration

Fear arises from a one-sided burden, and an equal sharing of economic and household responsibilities in a partner relationship can significantly reduce the psychological pressure brought about by commitment.

5.2 Accepting Moderate Long Term Connections

Short term freedom ultimately cannot withstand loneliness. Setting aside extreme risk avoidance thinking and establishing clear consensus are the key to having stable and secure intimate relationships.